Eva,
Last time, I talked of changing some core aspects of my life, a much needed change.
One of the first step for this change is to not get involved too much in people’s life. Life is hard, most of the people are struggling to keep up in their life. Some people are dealing with family issues, some people with relationship issues, some people with financial issues. When you have a overthinking mind and an observant eyes like I have, I often notice the little changes in people’s behaviour and actions which often tends to make me curious to know more. This curiosity often lead me to possessive behavioural traits, or maybe getting too much involved in people’s personal life.
I might do this with a purpose to help them, but most people tend to not like it. The first step I could take is to let it go! Most people are struggling, they are trying to keep up, keep smiling, face their struggles with confidence. Understanding boundaries while proving support is one of the best behaviour traits a good human should possess. People often don’t like to share their personal life, most people like to keep their personal life private.
If someone does not like to share their personal life with you, stop asking, stop getting curious over it. If that someone trusts you, they will definitely share it with you. Your aim should always be to build their trust, keep caring so that one day he/she will be happy to share their struggles and happy moments with you. Don’t force people to choose you, don’t force people to love you. Give them opportunities to choose you, give them opportunities to love you.
Your mind might be curious, your eyes may be constantly searching for answers, take control and keep your thoughts to yourself. Stop hurting people with your curiosity, stop asking questions to people who are not open to questions. It might hurt them even more, always try to respect their boundaries. Your life might be hard, but the opposite person hides a thousand struggles with a smiling face, give them space to handle it themselves. If you build their trust in you, they will definitely choose to share it with you when they feel they cannot handle it alone. Build those kinds of environments, build those kinds of relationships. The world does not need people who forces answers, it needs people who builds trust, people who respect boundaries.
Almighty God, help me choose distance over curiosity, build trust over questions and help people in need without expecting anything in return.
Thanks be to God!
♥️ Joekuttan
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